My Partner Is Pressuring Me to Have an Abortion, but I’m Not Sure

Maybe every conversation with your partner seems to come back to the same point: he wants you to have an abortion.

He may be worried about money, school, work, or becoming a father. He may even believe abortion would be an easy solution to the challenges you're facing. However, you alone can make a decision. No one has the right to make it for you.

Choices Options for Women is here if you need support navigating this situation and would like to learn more about your pregnancy options. Contact us today to get started.

It can be difficult to know what you want when someone else is constantly telling you what you should choose.

Think back to your first reaction when you learned you were pregnant. Before your partner weighed in, what were you thinking about? What paths did you consider?

You might also write down the questions you still have about parenting, adoption, and abortion. Looking at each option separately can help you identify whether your concerns are actually your own or whether they stem from repeated conversations with your partner.

If you feel comfortable, you may want to ask why your partner feels so strongly about you having an abortion.

Does he have financial concerns? Does he wonder how a baby might affect your relationship? Is he worried about school or work?

Understanding what may be behind a strong reaction can help you better understand where he is coming from, and it can also lay the groundwork for determining what support is needed if you choose an option like parenting or adoption. Your partner's opinion may change once he realizes what resources are available.

There is a difference between a partner having a strong opinion and someone who is trying to control your decision.

Threatening to leave, withholding money or transportation, interfering with appointments, threatening violence, or trying to force you to have an abortion are never acceptable behaviors. You deserve stability and support during this time.

If you feel unsafe, tell someone you trust. You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

You do not need to have another conversation with your partner if doing so could put you at risk.

When you're feeling unsure about a possible pregnancy decision, it's crucial to have enough information to reach your own conclusion. At Choices Options for Women, you can ask questions about abortion, adoption, and parenting to help you make an informed choice.

Contact us today to schedule a free appointment. No insurance is needed, and same-day or walk-in appointments may be available.

Choices Options for Women does not provide or refer for abortions.

All abortion information in this blog is based on accurate information at the time of writing.